We are setting new standards for achievements all over the
place that really don’t matter. Study
after study shows that those who are most successful are the ones who know how to
get along with others. Daniel Goleman explains
in his book ‘Working with Emotional Intelligence’ that success is not a result
of academics, or IQ, or even skills or expertise. Advancement is best marked by a high level of
emotional intelligence. There is an
emotional competence framework he talks about that is methodically being
extricated from our child’s school experience by other standards. Parents need to question how their child can
work on learning self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and
social skills. When children sit in rows
in front of computers can they learn how to be emotionally aware, or are driven
to achieve, and make commitments? How can we as parents work to help them learn
to understand others? How can we as parents teach our children to influence
others positively, and listen openly?
Team building, collaboration, and leadership are all skills we hope our
child can build. Unfortunately there are
only so many hours in an educational day.
Parents must take up the slack and involve their child in other
extra-curricular activities that have high levels of social interaction where
these skills can be learned.
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