Dealing with grief, anger, or sadness does not come easy to
anyone. James Pennebaker, an accomplished professor at the University of Texas came up with a way to deal with anger by writing it down. His research inspired me when found that people who wrote out their worries tended to cope better. There are so many ways to handle
anger that I have tried lately. Anger is
the fire that burns us to make us shine through adversity. It is like the fire in a kiln. We can put the glaze of experience on our pot
of life, but until we are put through the fire of life we do not shine. It is that going forth and coming back again
that makes us look all shiny and new again just like my daughter when she comes out of her fever. Her fever always makes her looks all toasty shiny and
new again.
If everyone could cope with anger naturally as we rid germs with fevers, the world would be better. I believe our anger is part of life, just as germs are. There are people, things, and experiences
that draw forth anger. They are
inevitable. It is how we deal with this
anger that matters. Having the space
between the feeling we feel, and the action we do, to cope with feelings allow us to
pick the best strategy to move forward in our lives and come out the other end of
the adversity tunnel shiny and new again.
Often when life is in disarray we may feel confused and
angry. In cases like these we need
clarity. Pour a glass of water and sit
and meditate for three to five days next to the water giving it our intention
for clarity. After we sit for a time of
10 minutes or more pour the water out into the ground.
When we are clear we may still be angry at the situation. Then it is time to fight fire with fire. Wake before all others in your
household. Get a sheet of paper. Write all the things you are angry about on
that paper. Then, crumple up the paper
and light it on fire outside. Make sure
it is in a metal or ceramic bowl that is not important to you. After writing for a week you will feel less
angry. The ashes will still be
there. Bury them in a place that brings
you peace.
After this is done go on a walk and breathe deeply for seven
days. Breathe in for ten counts and then
exhale for ten counts. Then stop for a
second and think to yourself “I accept my life as it is and wish to live my
life to its fullest.” Allow positive new
thoughts in and allow the painful sad thoughts to be. The object of this exercise is not to get rid
of unhappiness. The idea is to allow the
reality of the issue to set into your life.
