Monday, November 9, 2015

Holiday Happiness Emotions and Emotatudes

Dr. Kich is an imaginary doctor that helps children deal with their feelings in concrete ways.  If he were interviewed for this blog today he would say “Happy Heartfelt Holidays can be created when our emotions are kept in balance.”  How do we keep our feelings in balance you may ask?  Dr. Kich has a special mathematical formula! Dr. Kich’s formula says that a little fear with our joy and happiness can make us even more happy.  It can add to the excitement of the fun.  If our fear is overwhelming and overtakes our happiness we can end up absolutely miserable and quite sad.  So if we prepare ourselves well for holiday gatherings with friends and family we can have a great time. We all have worries and issues with our past holidays.  Dr. Kich gives us permission to take care of ourselves and be prepared for fun.
First you must allow yourself to unconditionally love something naturally. Then warm fuzzies will springs forth to make joy when we are self-aware at holiday time. Giving ourselves a chance to be giving and healthy and rested will bring down the fear levels and create a greater chance of a joyous time. Family get-togethers will be an absolutely joyous time if we love ourselves and choose our situations wisely. Keeping ourselves healthy and happy before any gathering will be a gift for everyone. 
Dr. Kich’s advice helps us deal with difficult dynamics. He has introduced Emotatudes, a theoretical paradigm, a vision of abstract chemical species interacting with each other by certain rules similar to quasi-chemical reactions. Several reaction schemes involving warm fuzzies, blues, heebie jeebies, bejeebers, warm tinglies, kanipshuns,  and flummoxes are analyzed in detail, in his children’s book. He works with  the spatiotemporal dynamics of the affective quasi-chemical mixtures in his books.  He studied in cellular-automaton models. A case of the blues is provided as an example of possible practical applications of theoretical findings on behavior of affective mixtures that he examined in many case studies during the holidays.
He knows there is bright side our inner emotional work, so we can enjoy more and suffer less. He advises us to give love to ourselves and embrace our healing work.  His instructions help us “sit with” the core feelings and past experiences. To do this we need to find a quiet place.  Light a candle.  Breathe in five times.  Let our mind rest and let go of all thoughts for just five minutes and focus on our breathing.  Try giving to a charity and be in a place of proper thinking, patience, humility, and compassion.  Set aside time for haircuts, hot baths, saunas, mending and sorting old clothes so your holiday wardrobe is set out with care. Make time for the ones you truly love and write them a note telling them how much you care.  

Follow his directions to go to the non-chalant club when something annoys or hurts you. Try to sit with what has happened, just note it, feel what gets stirred in you, and try to stay outwardly neutral. Get the Facts simmer down. Express your needs non-violently. Make a bridge from a bad feelings to good ones. Acknowledge others whether you agree with them or not.  Get quiet, trace your happy moments in life to past positive experiences to find the support you need. Keeping the balance of joy and sadness is important.  Sad moments are part of the human experience honoring joy and sadness is healthy.  Dr. Kich allows us all to acknowledge both.

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